I was visiting with a friend this weekend, and she shared her List with me, which really got me thinking. Now, to be clear, my List is of the qualities required for a first date, and her List is for the qualities required for marriage, so there are some obvious differences between Lists.
I have struggled to keep my List short, trying to balance my desire for a great mate with the realization that if I only look for perfection, I may end up overlooking greatness. But when my friend told me her List, it helped me see things from a better perspective.
For her eternal companion, she is seeking someone who can meet the following four criteria:
- spiritually compatible
- mentally compatible
- physically attractive
- moral integrity
Some of the things I struggle to keep off my list, like minimum height requirements (I admit, I want someone taller than I am, which shouldn't be hard), some sort of post secondary education, and and mental health, are important to me. But when seen in light of my friend's list, I realize that they are very temporal. In the eternities, I believe we will all be physically and mentally healthy. We will all be learning continually. And height won't matter.
So thank you, my friend, for helping me realize that, if I truly want an eternal relationship, I need to focus more on the spiritual, or eternal, qualities when looking for an eternal companion, because the temporal qualities are just that, temporary.
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