Do you ever have days where you look in the mirror and think, "I look goooood today"? And then you think, "who can I share these good looks with? Who will appreciate them?" Then you look around your house, and what do you know, there's no one there to tell you how hot you look. And maybe you think, "if I had a husband, he would tell me how hot I look."
Do you ever wish you had someone to ask "do these pants make my butt look fat?" (personally, if you have to ask, you shouldn't be wearing them. Either that, or you've got some self confidence issues.) Or have a great day at work, or accomplish a personal best and really want someone to share it with who will truly appreciate what you have done and celebrate with you?
If you had a husband, he could do all of those things for you. Not saying he would, but he certainly could. My thought is, why wait for a husband? Hopefully you've got friends who can tell you all of those things. But there's something even better. If you can learn to recognize your own beauty, whether internal or external, celebrate your own achievements, and figure out what looks good on you without assistance (it only took me about 10 years of running my clothing purchases past my sister for approval before I finally figured out for myself what works for me), you will not need to depend on someone else for your happiness. And then when you do find a husband who can give you complements and celebrate with you, you've got a bonus.
So how do you learn this? Remember the very first line of the Young Women's theme - "We are daughters of our Heavenly Father who loves us..." He made you beautiful, talented, and capable of being happy - whatever your situation in life.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Resolution
Well, a new year is here, and I am thinking about resolutions. Or rather, I'm avoiding thinking about it, as evidenced by the fact that it's the middle of January and I'm only just getting around to writing about it.
I've been pretty good for the last few years at setting goals - I pick three goals at the beginning of the year, and work towards them. Usually I accomplish at least two of the three, but last year I was less diligent and only managed to partially complete two of them, and didn't get anywhere on the third. Which may be why I'm so slow to get around to it this year.
I've thought about setting goals that I know I can accomplish, like "eat all my Christmas candy" (I can check that one off already), or "date less than I did last year", but I do like to have a bit of a challenge. But until recently I hadn't had any thoughts on what my challenge should be.
Then I went to a fireside and had the realization that I need to magnify myself. I know, those of you who know me (yes, DB, I'm talking to you) may be thinking, "but wait, your head is already big enough". But that's not what I'm talking about. Just as we need to magnify our callings, and do everything we can, including sometimes stepping past what we think are our limits, to fulfill the trust the Lord has placed in us, so we need to magnify ourselves, and fulfill the trust the Lord has placed in us individually by sending us, or letting us come, to earth.
President Uchtdorf gave a fabulous talk in the April 2011 general conference priesthood session about living up to your privileges. This is something that we can and should do regardless of our marital status. And it should probably start by figuring out what your privileges are - to inherit the Father's kingdom and become like God.
When I think about my celestial potential to become a queen, I realize that I've got a lot of magnifying to do, and a long way to go to live up to my privileges. If I don't figure out how to do that now, it will likely be even more difficult to figure it out while trying to work with a husband. And also, I'd like a husband who is trying to live up to his privileges, so I'd better get going on my own magnification process so I'll be worthy of what I'm looking for.
Now I need to figure out three goals that will help magnify me. Although really, eating all my Christmas candy has done a pretty good job on that already, in a very temporal way.
I've been pretty good for the last few years at setting goals - I pick three goals at the beginning of the year, and work towards them. Usually I accomplish at least two of the three, but last year I was less diligent and only managed to partially complete two of them, and didn't get anywhere on the third. Which may be why I'm so slow to get around to it this year.
I've thought about setting goals that I know I can accomplish, like "eat all my Christmas candy" (I can check that one off already), or "date less than I did last year", but I do like to have a bit of a challenge. But until recently I hadn't had any thoughts on what my challenge should be.
Then I went to a fireside and had the realization that I need to magnify myself. I know, those of you who know me (yes, DB, I'm talking to you) may be thinking, "but wait, your head is already big enough". But that's not what I'm talking about. Just as we need to magnify our callings, and do everything we can, including sometimes stepping past what we think are our limits, to fulfill the trust the Lord has placed in us, so we need to magnify ourselves, and fulfill the trust the Lord has placed in us individually by sending us, or letting us come, to earth.
President Uchtdorf gave a fabulous talk in the April 2011 general conference priesthood session about living up to your privileges. This is something that we can and should do regardless of our marital status. And it should probably start by figuring out what your privileges are - to inherit the Father's kingdom and become like God.
When I think about my celestial potential to become a queen, I realize that I've got a lot of magnifying to do, and a long way to go to live up to my privileges. If I don't figure out how to do that now, it will likely be even more difficult to figure it out while trying to work with a husband. And also, I'd like a husband who is trying to live up to his privileges, so I'd better get going on my own magnification process so I'll be worthy of what I'm looking for.
Now I need to figure out three goals that will help magnify me. Although really, eating all my Christmas candy has done a pretty good job on that already, in a very temporal way.
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